The best talk I ever heard given on the subject of Singular Living was at church, at a Singular Conference actually.
To preface: I am not in the habit of attending such events, in fact, our Singular ministry has evaporated in recent years. Too much desperate and dateless stigma attached, no real fruit in terms of peoples trading up (?) from Singular status and a much bigger push to connecting with the community as a whole. Anyway, I found myself at this particular conference and listening to a woman, who married later in life (read 30yrs old… Good Grief!) telling us poor tragic Singulars how she got over it.
Anyway, her message was this, “Recognize that you are in a season, and do that season well”
I actually think that this message translates to all areas of life not just the Singular versus Co-operative living issue etc. However, that was the best advice I ever heard, and pretty much the only advice I have taken in regard to Singular living. And so, because I have chosen to do this season well I thought you might be interested to know how that sort of mind set works itself out…
1. I won’t cry myself to sleep because I am alone.
2. I won’t feel compelled to be anyone other than who I am.
3. I won’t feel bitter, or twisted, or angry at God that this is where I am at. It may be my fault, it may be someone else’s but apportioning blame doesn’t change the facts.
4. I will look after myself and treat myself the way I deserve to be treated. Let’s face it, if I don’t who will?
5. I will keep in touch with my family and love their kids as much as if they were my own. I will not resent their co-operative or their parental status.
6. I will love the Lord my God with all my heart. Yes… Really.
7. I will not sit around waiting for my life to start. Baby, my life is in full swing…
8. I will say yes when I am asked even if my first thought is no…
9. I won’t say yes again if I don’t mean it.
10. I will take each day as it comes.
11. I will extend every courtesy to everyone I meet. God does, who am I to be any different.
12. I will have no regrets: I will make no excuse.
This is really only a starter for being well seasoned… Still… I think it is a good start, and who knows where it could lead?
"Recognize that you are in a season, and do that season well"
Wonderful. Thanks for sharing.
And I think your 12 steps are a mighty good start.